Controlling behaviors are often hard to distinguish from the normal experience of being in a relationship. If you suspect your partner is controlling, look for clues in how your partner’s behavior … [Read more...] about Recognizing the Effects of a Controlling Relationship
Recognizing the Pain of Emotional Invalidation
“You’re overreacting,” Jake told Amanda. “It’s no big deal.” Amanda looked at Jake with disbelief. He said he planned to go on a fishing trip with his male friends over the weekend. But he neglected … [Read more...] about Recognizing the Pain of Emotional Invalidation
Childhood Pain Can Lead to Adult Relationship Abuse
Inside the Mind of One Man Children who sustained painful emotional wounds from their parents and others can carry that pain into adulthood. Their adult relationships bring up their original pain and … [Read more...] about Childhood Pain Can Lead to Adult Relationship Abuse
Emotional Abuse is a Key Sign of Toxic Shame: From Childhood Anguish to Adult Dysfunction
In my experience over the years as a psychotherapist, many individuals have come to me in despair over their troubled relationships. They tell me that their partners profess to love them and yet treat … [Read more...] about Emotional Abuse is a Key Sign of Toxic Shame: From Childhood Anguish to Adult Dysfunction
The Real Reasons for Emotional Abuse and What to Do About It
Note: Belinda is a composite of many individuals who have come to me for counseling over the years. Jake is a composite of their intimate partners. Belinda didn't know that Jake had a serious … [Read more...] about The Real Reasons for Emotional Abuse and What to Do About It
Victim Blaming: A Tactic for Avoiding Emotional Intimacy
“I can’t be wrong all the time,” laments a woman who needs counseling for her troubled relationship. After some probing, I discover that her partner is controlling and blaming is one of the tactics he … [Read more...] about Victim Blaming: A Tactic for Avoiding Emotional Intimacy
When Elderly Parents Are Abusive
Attempting to take care of an abusive elderly parent is fraught with problems and limited options, more so now as family members shelter in place during the Covid-19 pandemic. But there are some … [Read more...] about When Elderly Parents Are Abusive
Is it a Love Spat or Emotional Abuse?
When stirring up trouble is used as a control tactic in relationships It takes maturity, self-reflection, and mental discipline to be in a healthy relationship. These traits are useful when … [Read more...] about Is it a Love Spat or Emotional Abuse?