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Hi, I’m Amy Lewis Bear!

I’m an emotional abuse expert, author, speaker, and psychotherapist on a mission to help smart, accomplished women heal from intimate partner abuse and get on a path to thriving in their careers, lives, and relationships.

Hi, I’m Amy Lewis Bear!

I’m an emotional abuse expert, author, speaker, and psychotherapist on a mission to help smart, accomplished women heal from intimate partner abuse and get on a path to thriving in their careers, lives, and relationships.

Healing from emotional abuse transformed my life – from the inside out.

That’s why I left a successful public relationship career with a top advertising agency to become a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and guide for women who are going through the painful experience of emotional abuse just like I did.
Through my books, keynote talks, videos, and one-on-one sessions, I help women like you heal from emotional abuse AND use your healing experience as a catalyst to fulfill your potential in life.

BUT when I was dealing with my own emotionally abusive relationship, I didn’t know that this was possible…Yet!

Amy on KOB-TV’s Good Day New Mexico in Albuquerque during a media tour.

Amy on KOB-TV’s Good Day New Mexico in Albuquerque during a media tour.

I get the pain and frustration of loving someone who can’t love you back.


In my young adulthood, I unintentionally got involved in relationships with men who had a hidden dark side. On the outside, they seemed like normal men fully capable of being in a healthy relationship. But on the inside these men had a serious psychological condition that drove their desperate need to control and manipulate others at any cost. They used emotionally abusive behavior as a major psychological defense against their profound feelings of inadequacy and emptiness.

These experiences and my personal growth work helped me gain a deep understanding of the insidious nature of emotional abuse, its effects on others, who gets abused, who abuses others, why it happens, and how to recover.

My experience with emotional abuse had such a profound impact on me that I left a thriving career in public relations and returned to graduate school to become a psychotherapist with a mission to:

Help people heal from emotional abuse!

I get the complexities of emotional abuse

I got a Master of Science in professional counseling from Georgia State University and became a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in 2009. After working with hundreds of women to overcome emotional abuse in their intimate relationships, I came to realize that emotionally abusive behavior has many subtleties and complexities, which make it difficult to recognize. This lack of recognition leaves the abused vulnerable and at risk of losing their sense of self along with their vitality and joy in life.

It’s a tricky phenomenon that most people don’t fully understand. Often, the abusive tactics are hidden or denied, so it’s easy for the abused to be fooled by those who claim to love them. Many people, even psychotherapists, can be misled by the charming image often projected by an emotionally abusive person.

Not sure if you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship? Take my FREE quiz to find out! 

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I now work to raise public awareness about emotional abuse through my writing, speaking, and YouTube channel. I equip, guide, and inspire people struggling with emotional abuse to gain:

The knowledge and power to end emotional abuse and become their best self!

I get you!

I’m here to help you thrive as a direct result of overcoming emotional abuse. My practice is built upon my conviction that the real work that saves you and keeps you free from emotional abuse is identifying and letting go of the old, misguided beliefs you have about yourself and your value.

Whether you choose to stay or exit your relationship, I help you become your true self, with firm boundaries that ensure you’re treated with the love and respect you deserve.

I’m now happily married, with a career that I love. I can’t wait to show you what it takes to free yourself from emotional abuse, to recover and find personal fulfillment and happiness in your life, maybe more than you dreamed could be possible.

If you’re struggling in a relationship that is hurting you – don’t struggle alone!

Let me guide you through a healing process that will not just help you recover from emotional abuse but also will enable you to use your painful experiences as a catalyst to fully embrace your power and potential as the amazing woman that you are.

Contact me to arrange a free 20-minute phone or video intro call to learn more about my services and tell me about your situation so we can determine how I can help.

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